最近听了这么一个令人哭笑不得真实故事，一对情侣用了几年的努力，才克服了空间距离以及种种现实的障碍才走到一起结成夫妇，谁知道结婚才三个月已经过不下去，快速办了离婚手续，成了陌路人。离婚的理由很简单，本来小夫妻都在异地工作与双方父母不在同一城市，婚后为了遵循孝道打算回男方所在的城市发展。谁知道一回家，男方的母亲就马上给新媳妇来了个下马威，摆出嫁入某家就是某家人，从此要服从家规等话出来……想来当今80后的女子是何许人物，又怎堪承受这等重言和管教，结果婆媳之间闹了个不欢而散，丈夫夹在中间，第一次遇上这样的事，左右为难，不知如何是好，结果小夫妻俩又吵了一架。本来这在家庭相处中也属常事，偏偏女的是家中的独生女，自小在父母宠爱中长大的，一下子伤心不已，自觉凄凉无比，再加上在接着的婆媳相处中无从适应，结婚第三个月，果断提出离婚，男方也疲惫不堪，一段婚姻就这样划上句话，两位26岁的年轻人一下子就成了社会上的失婚人。 　　这样的真实事件，相信在当今什么都讲“闪”的年代，并不奇怪，只是看着，未免悲哀，究竟是婚姻欺骗了我们，还是我们污染了婚姻的神圣？喊着口号要寻觅“天长地久，白头偕老”爱情和婚姻的人们，当你们真正遭遇爱情和婚姻的时候，是否想过真正的天长地久是怎样来的？难道那只是一个纯粹的向往，而不是你想努力实现的梦想？
　　本来，俗话都有说：相爱容易相处难。谈谈情说说爱，本就是两个人的、简单的事，但是婚姻却是两个家庭的事。恋爱时节，恋人之间带着激情，总是极力呈现美好的一面，也乐于美化和包容对方，但真正结婚后，拉紧的神经一下子放松下来：我们是夫妻了，是自己人了，不必再时时害怕失去了，所以可以坦然做自己了。于是，彼此的本性慢慢显露，渡过最初的新婚新鲜期后，夫妻双方就会进入磨合期，明智的、成熟的人会安然接受这过程，并努力同心去渡过这阶段，才能换来婚姻和爱情的稳固。反之，对婚姻认知不当、心理承受力低的人一进入婚姻磨合阶段，则会开始感到绝望，觉得婚姻和自己所期待的不一样，婚姻让爱情和心爱的人变了质，灰暗的心理之下产生负面的思维，促使婚姻走向解体。
　　除了夫妻之间的相处磨合，婚姻还牵涉到与对方家庭成员的相处，婆媳关系自古是难题，更何况还有彼此家庭观念和价值观念的磨合，最初总是艰难的，但是中国的婚姻谁不经历这样的阶段呢？陌生的人总是需要时间去相互了解、相互学习爱对方，从中找出相处之道，这过程是漫长的，需要一颗安然接受的心和积极的态度，如果一遇挫折就放弃，婚姻就会脆簿如纸了。
　　婚姻中存在的问题，自古皆在，古时人们之所以能克服并坚持，是因以前的人们注重名誉，离婚是丑陋的事，没有退路自然会想办法克服所遇到的难题，因而产生坚持和容忍之心。再者以前的人们，异性之间接触的机会少，让离异后再步入婚姻和婚外情的机遇减少，从而减少三心二意的机会。
　　当今社会，人们观念的开放、情感的自由度，无形之中让人们丧失了坚守婚姻的决心，也促使婚姻变得脆簿如纸。只是，我们心底最美丽的向往呢？难道，那只是一个口号？连张学友都在访问中说“吵架的时候也会说离婚，但那只是不冷静的气话。”
　　面对婚姻，可以灰心可以失望，但是，请不要忘记心底关于天长地久的向往，更要知道那份美丽是需要付出智慧和坚定、积极的态度才能得到的。这世间又有那对夫妻之间的婚姻完美如诗？轻易放开一个人的手，我们这辈子又能拉多少个人的手？如果把放弃的想法转为面对和解决问题的决心，相信办法总比困难多，不要想着换个对象婚姻就会更顺利，爱情或许不同，但经营婚姻之道莫不大同小异。非不得已，请换一个姿态去经营婚姻，轻易放手的人永远找不到美丽的传说，因为婚姻是需要经营一辈子的事业。　

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